My Confessional (Pt. 1)…

Wow… what a crazy couple of months! I’ve been so busy and all over the place, I haven’t had a real moment to myself it seems like in forever. Traveling is great, but there’s nothing like the comfort of your own bed and home.

So many people have come in and out of my life over the last few months it’s been pretty amazing. I never take for granted the opportunity of meeting new people. There is always a lesson to be learned. Some are great and others can be a bit challenging. Nevertheless, it’s all about opportunity and evolution.  

Over the last few days, I’ve been reflecting on myself and my journey and I couldn’t be more pleased with myself. I know that may sound a bit conceited, but I have truly learned a lot about myself and my strength. It’s not easy being Psychic sometimes… In fact, it can be downright exhausting and depressing. Especially when it comes to learning boundaries and or lessons through people that remind you of what not to go back to or stand for. Because I am Psychic, I tend to stick around situations longer than I need to. I get stuck thinking I can help everyone, truth is, you can’t. Some people are really blinded by their own illusion of themselves that they can’t see past their own pride and ego. Ever hear of the phrase, “you can lead a horse to water”?  With that being said, the only thing I can do is deliver the message and move on.

In any other situation, I wouldn’t put up with half the shit that I do now. I mean I’m just not built that way. But it’s all about the lesson with me. The lesson of the person and situation. As I continue to go through these lessons and changes, I will do my best to share them with you. I’m hoping to do a lot more writing and documenting of my journey.

The Power of Technology (Even for a Psychic)

This weekend I was hard at work updating my social sites, writing blog posts and doing something I really hate: having new photos taken (yuck!). It’s painful! We all go through our struggles (mine are longer than Wikipedia), and one of the smaller ones I’m working to get over is my own self-image. I’ve always said that this job isn't about me, it’s about helping others. But my mentor is teaching me the importance and absolute necessity of social media, an updated website and the power of presentation. I am no different than anyone else when it comes to feeling self-conscious. It is painful for me to watch my work, whether I’m seeing myself on television, in photos or hearing myself on the radio. This is something that I’m working hard to overcome. 

I am very blessed to have been introduced to some of the best people to work with in the industry. Thankfully, that helps make it at least a little less awkward. The truth is, my journey through the media world is actually helping me overcome some of my fears and anxieties. Every day brings a new lesson for me. And I’m so thankful that I’m able to help others while helping myself come to terms with things that I’ve struggled with since I was a kid. I love helping people work through their struggles. I hope you’ll have patience with me as I work through my own.

Go Ahead, Tell Me Anything!

“Go ahead, tell me anything!” I love it when a client says that, and then I bring up deep dark secrets, and they’re like, “Wait, anything but that!” My readings are not like the advertised $10 palm readings. They can be very intense, to say the least. I will always spend at least a minute with a celebrity or on-air personality telling them what I’m getting to ensure that it’s safe to speak about publicly. That is a must. But before you tell a psychic, “Tell me anything,” think hard about it!

My Own Ethical Code

In my previous post I talked about my own boundaries as a Psychic. While there is no moral code written in stone for those with a gift, I think it is innate to separate good from bad. Another part of my own ethical code: I won’t share something that could jeopardize someone’s job or life. While this may not come up in a one-on-one session, it’s something I have to think about during on-air readings, when a huge audience (including a number of bosses) is listening. I have the potential to hurt someone’s livelihood if I’m not careful. So I try hard to make sure any on-air personality I am reading knows this is extremely important. “Do no harm” drives my readings. Im here to help you help you.

Boundaries (and Where I Will Not Venture)

Every Psychic should have limitations on what they will and will not share. Here are some of my boundaries:

•    I will not discuss death. Just as doctors have an ethical code, so do I. And part of that is I won’t talk about dying. That’s because it typically causes more harm than good. I’m all about empowering people, not making them dread the coming days.

•    I’ll only go so far into the future. If I talk about things years and years down the line, people don’t know what to do with that info. They will spin their wheels until they fall off trying to make things happen. The truth is, things need to happen naturally. 

•    Boundaries are something every psychic/intuitive/medium should have. I’m not into playing God and stepping on his toes. I’m constantly reminded of that every time I read someone. My guides really drive that home with me. 

On Air with CBS Sports Radio

I got a chance recently to go on CBS Sports Radio. I was so honored to be joining Gio and Jones in the morning, and as expected (I’m a psychic right?) this was definitely a challenge for me. Here’s a recap:

•    Men are the hardest to get to open up because they’re naturally skeptical of any kind of “therapy.” That means I have walls and guards to get past. I always read them to myself first before I talk to them to figure out how to loosen them up. Humor is one of my best weapons, and I am always direct (and not coming from a touchy feely place). The best way to start a reading is to go with something very personal about the person that no one else knows. That lowers the defenses just enough for me to jump through.

•    The hits I was getting during my stint on CBS Sports Radio were very personal to each of the hosts. That presents a challenge for me on air. I did not feel comfortable sharing the information publicly, without the hosts’ permission. So when there was a commercial break, I totally went in on them and let them know what was coming through. That’s what the audience didn’t know. People I read don’t realize the intimacy of the messages until they are with me, and then it’s like, “Oh wow, I had no idea you would get that.”

•    Music in my ear during a session is something I can’t help but be distracted by. Naturally—I’m a Taurus! I automatically start feeling the music and it’s all over, I can’t hear anything else. So a reminder to self: no music during any on-air readings. Especially the creepy sci-fi kind. 

•    There’s a lot going on in a reading. I’m still new to on-air readings, but I know this much: anything can happen. There are times when I’m hearing different spirits trying to connect to everyone in the room. For me, trying to figure out who’s who among those spirits can be challenging, to say the least. Rather than talking through the confusion, sometimes I’m trying so hard to figure it out I go silent. I have to remember that when that happens, the audience has no idea what’s going on. I’m working on mastering that and keeping the conversational flow going throughout.

Tips For Your Next Psychic Visit

It saddens me to see fraud in my profession, but it’s a fact of life. Because of that, it’s important to be aware of some things before visiting a psychic for a reading. Here are a few tips to help:

 Find out where the psychic is coming from. You want to know whether or not he or she is operating from a good place. It’s pretty easy to tell this. If the first thing out of their mouth is about money, you pretty much know you’re going to get asked to invest in some sort of “life changing” mechanism. Walk away fast, that’s a big red flag! 

Start with questions about the psychic. A lot of people think this is a no no, but it’s actually a good tactic. Interview the psychic. After all, he or she is auditioning for you and your time. Personally, I always welcome questions. It’s a great icebreaker and it makes it easier to connect.

Don’t offer any information about yourself other than your name. Let them do what they’re supposed to do and read you. I typically spend the first part of a session (up to 15 or 20 minutes for longer sessions) directly reading a person. If those first few minutes are totally off, it allows you the opportunity to call bullshit.

“Why Don’t You Take a Picture, It’ll Last Longer?”

Oh yes, a favorite Pee-wee Herman quote. It’s funny until someone actually says that to you. I’m often made aware of the intensity of my stare. It’s hard for me to explain, but when I look at people I’m constantly getting “hits.” I see snapshots of the past, present and future. I want to watch everything and figure out what this person is all about. But often I get so involved in their “slideshow,” I forget I’m staring!

It's something I've dealt with my whole life. In school, it used to make my teachers very uncomfortable. I'd often get asked, "What are you looking at?" What could I say? “You need to be nicer to your husband and kids?” I'm sure that would have been paid back in years of detention! Anyway, my stares can feel quite intrusive, but I honestly can't help it. Staring helps me do my best work.